Once we remember and know who we are, the next step on our journey to self-love is to embrace who we are – the good, the bad, the light, the dark.
What are your thoughts, mindsets, beliefs about yourself? How often do you compare yourself to others, to the ‘beautiful people on TV or in magazines? How do you talk to yourself? How much of it is positive? How much of it is negative? We put ourselves down for not being as beautiful or perfect as the people on TV, for not be as smart as our siblings, for not sticking to our diet, for not exercising enough, for spending too much money – the list is endless. How often have you heard as a child the sentence from your parents or other caregivers in your environment, “You’re not as smart as …” or “You are not good good enough to … ” or “You have to do better than that”? This diminished your feeling of self-worth and makes it very hard for you as an adult to accept who you are.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Self-acceptance is often defined as the awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses, the realistic (yet subjective) appraisal of one’s talents, capabilities, and general worth, and, feelings of satisfaction with one’s self, despite deficiencies and regardless of past behaviors and choices.
Self-acceptance means to stop comparing yourself, judging yourself, and criticizing yourself. It means to see where you are sabotaging yourself. I means to embrace all facets of yourself and accepting wholeheartedly who you are on the inside.
Accepting who we are on all levels requires that we look at ourselves with more compassion and forgive ourselves for everything we assumed was or is our fault.Part of the process is to examine why we criticize ourselves and put ourselves down.
Accepting who we are means to let go of our feelings of guilt and shame and to let go of our longing for approval from others.
You can start by telling yourself that you have always done, and are still doing, the best you possibly could with what you had and knew at the time. And once you begin to let go of everything that makes you feel inadequate and not good enough and embrace who we are, despite of all your little flaws, a wonderful feeling will begin to blossom inside of you: the feeling of appreciation for yourself.
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